A few of my personality quirks got together and made this site:
- I am a recovering perfectionist.
- I am obsessed with details and information, of any kind.
- I believe in efficiency. (When I was a kid, my mom read us Cheaper by the Dozen and it sparked an aggressive fascination with efficiency…more on that later)
- I am an empath.
- & I LOVE communication.
In the fall of 2017, I settled on this concept… 2.5 years later, I have finally grown a little stronger than my fear and set it up.
On Perfectionism
It’s been ruining my life since I was a child—stealing joy and time and fun. After 25+ years, I got tired of it. It began to hurt too much and grew too heavy. As a way of life, it was ineffective. I had spent all this time reaching for more extreme self-control and trying to achieve greater discipline, thinking it would be my salvation and my cure. Spoiler alert: this mindset only made everything worse.
After my hyper-controlling methods kept failing, I started seeking a different kind of resource and managed to finally make the progress I’d dreamt of (big thanks to Brené Brown’s books—also clearly everything goes back to books for me).
One of my greatest weapons against perfectionism (and its companion, self-loathing) grew from time on my yoga mat. This phrase: everything is practice.
To avoid catastrophizing every imperfect moment of my life, I remind myself that everything is practice for the next thing. And that practice will bring progress. And progress, not perfection, is my (reformed) aim.
Because progress means I am a little bit slower to yell in anger or dissolve in self-hate or inflict permanent wounds on the ones I love.
In turn, my harm-to-others footprint reduces and my capacity for self-love increases.
So since I am a detail-loving, recovering perfectionist on the quest for more knowledge, my love of efficiency and communication said: share what you learn. Make it easy to access and easy to process. Save some folks some time and ugly-comment-section pain.
In the fall of 2017, I settled on this concept, named the site and commissioned the logo. 2.5 years later, I have finally grown a little stronger than my fear and set it up. I hope this site serves you well. The journey here has already served me. And that’s progress.